Thursday, June 16, 2011

Woah.


And here I thought no-one would know how to respond...

Once again, you guys have blown me away with your kindness, your insights and your uncompromising faith. I am one lucky gal to have such tremendous support! I don't know how to express how much your comments have meant to me...but you absolutely have been instrumental in helping me to gather my strength and forge ahead on behalf of Kevin.

I've managed to line up three appointments between now and the end of the month...and one of them has to pay off! I'm looking forward to Friday night...when I can curl up with a glass of Cloudy and respond to each and every comment...'cause you guys simply ROCK. With such loving support, how can I possibly fail??

"Thank you" doesn't begin to cover it. Sending you back some cyber-love across the miles...

xo

Fierce said...

Always here for you _athryn *hugs*

:)
xoxo

Susan F said...

Just don't put pressure on yourself, Kathryn. If you're up to responding to comments, then take some time and do it, but I think everyone would be just as happy to see you have a relaxing evening to just chill (with your cloudy!). You need it, and you deserve it. Take care of yourself. *hugs*

Kimberly said...

I agree with Susan F. Take some time just to chill. Still praying for you from PA!

Climb2Nowhere said...

I'm so glad you're doing better!!!!! You're awesome!!!!! Stay strong, and keep on keeping on. You'll get through this I know!

xoxo

Lauren said...

Don't forget to take care of you! Everything will work out.

Gigi said...

That's what friends are for, Kathryn. Right now, you just worry about you and Kevin.

Alan W. Davidson said...

That sounds like a step in the right direction, Kathryn.

What? Just ONE glass of Cloudy?

~A

starfish264 said...

Your post yesterday really touched me - it can be so hard to keep fighting for something when you know it's a never-ending battle (or the only way it will end is unthinkable). I'm so sorry to hear that there's been so much trouble recently, it's seems to me you're right to doubt what they're saying when your son says he didn't hit that staff-member - I've known a few people with both autism and asburghers (sp?), and I've never known any of them lie or intentionally distort the truth. It seems to me, that maybe the staff have distorted it to suit - is it possible that that there was accidental contact (afterall, if someone tried to subdue me I'd probably struggle), and it suits the staff-member to say it was intentional because they might have a change at litigation? A horrible thought, but the only conclusion I can come to with those facts.

Hoope it all gets sorted soon - enjoy that glass of Cloudy! x

Alicia said...

You know. I don't have any Cloudy, but I do have a really great bottle of Pinot Grigio...so I am going to join you in spirit and "spirits" :-)...and have myself a glass of wine for you! Then one for your son, then one for my son, then one for me. Cyber-love right back atcha buddy!

Spot said...

Why don't I keep wine in my house?? Okay, I'll join you in thought.

♥Spot

Gay Guy said...

Kathryn,

You have so much going on right now. I know that you are a very strong person.

Runnergirl said...

I've been out of the loop and missed your original post.

What a tough time to be going through, and on your own too. I think that anyone who feels they can no longer provide the care for someone they love that they need feels over whelming guilt every day. I know my aunt did when she put my Granny into a home.

It's probably worse when it's your child, so I can only imagine what you've been going through.

All I would say, is that the facility sounds a bit suspicious, and I hope that something does work out. I know it's probably futile and energy sapping, but I would be so tempted to see if any other families with children at the home had had similar experiences.

I am sending happy, if belated, thoughts your way for you and your family, and I hope everything works out soon.

Kristy said...

I just got caught up and read about what happened. I'm so sorry! I, too, find something a little "off" about the staff's dealings with your son. I think you are right to wonder if they really had the compassion and foresight in place to help head off a serious issue. Are they more used to dealing with people who have emotional/behavioral disorders besides autism? With autism, even high functioning adult autism, you just need to have a different approach or else you can easily escalate a situation. Anyways. I don't know what the situation was. It just makes me wonder. I LOVE working with children with autism. Without their unique look at the world, we would miss so much about the parallels that run alongside us. The parallels that us "normal" people do not see.

ogden security systems said...

Am also sending all my wishes to you. Everything surrounds you works beautifully.

Jerry said...

Yes..yes...you and Kevin are indeed moving forward. Keep the faith and strength, and your legendary good humor.

Warm hugs,

Jerry

Alicia said...

Hi Kathyrn,
Just wanting you to know that you are missed. Sending you love and best wishes from California :-)

John McElveen said...

Hiya Gal- Sorry I have been missing you. You were gone, then I was gone, we both were gone!

Just a Hug to say I really really missed my _athryn!!

Hugs my friend!

John

Shelby said...

we miss you!
:(
Shelby

kathryn said...

Fierce: I know, sweetie. It means so much to hear it...I hope you know that! Sending you back those cyber-hugs....xoxo

Susan F: You are a very wise woman, Sue. Of course by now, we've all realized you were right on the money, as I've just now come up for air. Heaven knows what I'd do without you. (*Hugs back*)

Kimberly: Thank you, sweetie! You know I appreciate it...and you know how much your thoughts and prayers have meant! It's awesome having such strong, positive people in my corner. xo

kathryn said...

Clinb2Nowhere: Honey, I so appreciate the well-wishes. I just want things to return to the way they were...when I had the time to fit blogging and reading other's blogs into my life. I really miss you guys! I'm not giving up, though...I will find that balance! Thanks for sticking with me! xo

Lauren: Does collapsing in front of the teevee and watching back-to-back eppys of Project Runway fall under the header of "taking care of me"? Sometimes, it seems that's all I can manage. Miss you! Mean it. xo

Gigi: Thank you, my friend. This has not been an easy time...but I'm determined not to repeat it, so I know I've got to make something change for the better. It's the not quite knowing how part that's getting me. I'm getting there, though. Knowing you're there means a lot! xo

kathryn said...

Alan W. Davidson: What? You mean, I have your permission for more than one glass of Cloudy?? I'll be right back....

starfish264: There is a tremendous amount of truth in what you've said. And yes, I agree with all of it. Kevin is incapable of lying...and yes, there is always the possibility of his having unintentionally lashed out. But that isn't what they say has happened...and their story doesn't make sense overall. I'm trying to stay focused on the big picture...but this doesn't exactly leave me with a feeling of confidence in their abilities. Thanks so much for this thoughtful comment!

Alicia: Well thanks, doll! You're willing to consume all that wine...just for me?? I feel so honored! I feel that the least I can do is return the favor. So, cheers...and sending the love right back at'cha!

kathryn said...

Spot: Well, why don't you keep wine in your house?? Are you a martini kinda gal? 'Cause that works for me also...

Gay Guy: Thank you, my friend. Hey, I know that everybody has something. I'm hoping the future holds some quiet time so that I can focus on other things. I appreciate the shout-out. Hope you're well!

Runnergirl: Aw. Thanks so much for this lovely comment, sweetie. And yes...I think it's hard on anyone when they realize they can't provide what a loved one needs on a daily basis. I don't have many answers but I'm determined to improve on what Kevin has now. I feel that this was a window into how his life would be without family to advocate for him and it's simply unacceptable. I'll keep you posted-thanks so much for the comment.

kathryn said...

Kristy: Thank you for the insight...and yes, I think that possibly they're not familiar with the unique challenges that autism brings. My son absolutely has his own perspective to his world and the more I delve into this, the more I'm discovering that they really don't seem to understand what does or doesn't work. Lucky for us, we've got an appt soon with a therapist who seems to have a better handle on what autism is all about. Fingers crossed.

odgen security systems: Thank you. I really appreciate the kind wishes!

Jerry: Aw, Jerry...you rock. AND you're excellent for my ego as well. That makes for the perfect combination. I'm staying strong...and it's made easier knowing your good thoughts are with me. xo

kathryn said...

Alicia: I'm here, sweetie! I know it's been forever...but I'm not giving up! I will somehow find the balance! Thanks for the looooove....

John McElveen: Aw. Thank you, kind sir. I appreciate the cyber-hug and the kind words. Sounds like we've got some serious catching up to do! Your -athryn is still around...and is looking forward to good times ahead!

Shelby: Aw...don't be sad. You need to know that I'm not gone for good...even though it can certainly feel that way. My intentions are absolutely to find a balance and to have a more predictable presence. I promise I'll keep trying.

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